I had the same issue when I started tying them, but after trying a few different methodes have settled on a combination…
First lightly dress your hook shank, then add you hair towards the eye, take the thread infront of where you want your wing, start a little behind the eye. Then spin it to the wing and press it up to the wing. Remeber it will try fall forward, so do a few extra turn, i like it to point a bit back, before I am happy.
Once you are happy, Barrs method of adding a little head cement to the base of the wing once it has settled…