No respect for Mamma…
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As many of you know, my wife and I recently brought a Labradoodle into our home. I am simply in love with our new familial addition. However, our new pup Naia, has no respect for her new mommy. If I look at Naia she sits down and waits, but when my wife attempts a simple command like “sit” or “no,” Naia goes ballistic and starts biting my wife. In truth, I find it quite humorous, but I know this cannot last, or my wife will leave us both or find one of my guns and handle the issue herself.
We have discussed several possibilities: my voice vs. my wife’s non-intimidating one, when I discipline our dog I only ask her once, (Thank you my MT friend) etc. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to share.
Dusty
We have the same issue with our boxer. He listens to me much better than her and I have told her she tries to love and correct in the same tone. She has gotten better and so has the dog.
We have the same problem with my twin boys. ;D I don’t think there is much of a solution for that problem. I always new to jump when POP said jump. 😀
Have you watched the dog whisperer much? I have actually learned a ton from watching him with problem dogs.
Dusty – a friend of mine had the same problem and here is how he solved it: Have your wife tell you to sit and give you commands and make the dog watch you obey and then get rewarded. Sounds weird, but it worked perfectly for them. Personally, I’m very lucky that my dog is an equal opportunity employer/obeyer.
That happens quite a bit and I just returned from my sisters house where they also have the same problem with their Doodle~
Thanks Guys, there is some great input here. We watch “Dog Whisperer” all the time, and his show has helped quite a bit, along with his books.
Neal-That is an interesting idea…I will have to give that one some considerable thought. I cannot have my wife thinking she is the Alpha! 😉
We have tried making her wait to go outside behind us, but this is almost impossible; Naia seems to be a 20 lb. chunk of muscle, and even with a choker on, she still bolts out the door and down the stairs. I have heard that lab pups are among the most difficult to break, so far as them learning their place in the house is concerned; perhaps we just need to ride this out, along with many of the suggestions posted here and some help form the Dog Whisperer.
Mike-If the problem persists, you have an excellent source of tying feathers ;D
Thank you all!
DustyWe solved this problem by making sure my fiancee always, and sometimes unnecessarily, asserts her dominance.
Andrew,
Great idea! I am going to send this thread to my wife so she can start this today. As new dog owners, we have never really known the appropriate time or frequency we should assert our dominance. Bu this sounds like it could work. Maybe it just comes more naturally to a man to be the dominant force in a household while the woman feels she is being mean when she has to do so???Dusty
I agree, that the dog is probably an alpha female and is trying to assert dominance as #2. All I can say is your wife cannot let her get away with it. My wife solved a similar problem by grabing the dog when it didn’t mind or appeared aggressive and holding it down in a submissive position (and even growling at it). Once she established who was the “big dog”, the problem was resolved. But, you must do it now that the dog is a puppy. Once it gets big, I could be a real problem.
Dusty – a friend of mine had the same problem and here is how he solved it: Have your wife tell you to sit and give you commands and make the dog watch you obey and then get rewarded. Sounds weird, but it worked perfectly for them. Personally, I’m very lucky that my dog is an equal opportunity employer/obeyer.
Dusty if you take Neal’s advice you HAVE to video tape it for the rest of us to see! That would be priceless!
I think Andrew has given you some very solid advice. I have done the food thing to two of my labs that had eating issues. Aside from the enormous amount of drool you may have to deal with it is amazing how well this works for showing how is in charge.
Make sure your wife is being consistant in only asking the dog to obey once and than making sure the dog does what she wants. You may want to have her take the dog for a long walk and then have her work with her so that the dog can be more focused. Another technique that I had to use on a lab/rotweiller cross I had was to pin it to the ground a lay on top of it until it was completely submissive for several minutes. I think your pup thinks it is higher in the pack than your wife. Next time the dog bites at your wife have her pin the dog and lay on top of it until the dog gives up. Once she does this a few times the dog will quickly realize that she is a little higher on the food chain.
Keep us posted on the progress Dusty and if you take Neal’s advice we want to see video!!!!
Joel
Mike-If the problem persists, you have an excellent source of tying feathers ;D
Lol, maybe an ok meal too.
mamma gots to show the doodle who is boss!
i agree with stern voice and positive reinforcement, eye contact, maybe a finger snap or other non verbal audible gesture.
like zach, we’ve got dr jones trained (mostly) with verbal commands.
he knows various verbal commands that i’ve taught him. the wife doesn’t use them that often which doesn’t help.
one of my favorites is if you say ‘socks’ and point to someone who has their shoes off, he’ll run over and take their sock off their foot.
Let me master my camera first, then maybe videography. Plus, I am not sure I want proof of my wife submitting me to be on the web. She read this thread and now refers to me as the inferior one! If that keeps up, I may do some special training w/ Naia and my wife will be missing all of her socks!
after reading all of your comments and pondering on the past couple of months, I have come to the conclusion inconsistency is primarily to blame. In the beginning, it was “good Cop” and “Bad Cop,” and now I think mom has figured out that being good cop does not yield good results. Conversely, I was always worried I was being too much a hard-ass on a puppy. Hopefully, and I believe we are getting there, we will find a consistent, happy medium
I really appreciate all this advice, and I know my wife does as well.
Thanks y’all,
DustyDusty – a friend of mine had the same problem and here is how he solved it: Have your wife tell you to sit and give you commands and make the dog watch you obey and then get rewarded. Sounds weird, but it worked perfectly for them. Personally, I’m very lucky that my dog is an equal opportunity employer/obeyer.
Wait a minute your wife is supposed to do this after you get a dog. We were married for two years before we got a dog…
Jason,
I don’t know what to tell ya there bro. But I feel your pain. But don’t worry-I will offer no proof on the web that men are dominated by their women. I guess I am not that secure.Re. dominance, and after studying dog behavior and watching Caesar these past months, I told my wife the best way to assert her dominance was for her to hump the dog, as the dog does things she wishes to dominate. The wife did not think this was a good idea. Sounds logical to me, though.
But tonight the wife was renewed with a new vigor. If Naia looks at her wrong, the wife gets in that ass quick, fast and in a hurry. Let’s hope it bears fruit. And in the interests of my wife’s sanity, I decided I needed to fish all day tomorrow and allow the two of them to make friends. So, I am going fishing in OK; I just hope I still have a dog when I get home!!!
Dusty
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